How to "Stretch" Your Most Important Relationship

Your most important relationship as a entrepreneur isn’t with your partner, your, customers, or your significant other and your kids – it’s with time

I have wife with two kids, a consulting and a real estate company to run, a regular nine to fiver with a large non profit, and clients to mentor.  I don’t have any time.  But I do have a powerful relationship with time.

It’s wasn’t always that way.  For years I felt as if I was in a tornado.  When I launched my company I literally felt like I was behind the power curve and my life was out of control.  I had impossible long to-do lists and there are never enough hours in the day.

I’m sure you know the feeling.  It’s not just that the days flew day.  That was the GOOD part.  The problem was I felt like I wasn’t getting anything accomplished.  SO many things demanded my attention; there were so many fires to put out.  I felt like I was just spinning my wheels.

I spent all day telling myself, I don’t have enough time, and I started to believe it.  You probably do the same thing.

I wasn’t running my business; my business was running me – ragged.   I was so busy doing what had to be done, all the while telling myself how little time I had; I spent all day racing around trying to make everything fit.  I kept wishing for more hours in a day, and then reality hit – it’s not going to happen.  I can’t change how much time I have; I can only change my relationship with time.

So the first step to stretching your relationship with time is to change how you think about time, and in this blog I will explain how to “Stretch your most important relationship, so read on!

Listen to yourself

First listen to yourself and notice how much you actually speed up time by telling yourself (all day long), “I don’t have enough time.”  “I can’t fit that in.”  “I’m running out of time.”  Theses phrases start a chain reaction and send you spiraling into a whirlwind frenzy trying to jam it all in.

Make a conscious effort

Recognize that everything you’ve ever needed to get done, you have.  Right on time.  When’s the last time you every actually missed out on something because you ran out of time?  Every term paper I waited till the last minute to write, I actually got done.  I just pulled an all nighter to do it.  Every big presentation or proposal got done – in exactly the amount of time you had.

I’ve come to the realization that the amount of time each task takes is exactly the same as the amount of time I have to get it done in.  You actually DO what have when you need it – plenty of it.  You are just so busy rushing to keep up that you don’t THINK you do.      

Change your belief

Accept that the problem isn’t time.  The problem lies in your priorities and your habit of turning everything into an emergency.  The answer isn’t more hours in a day; the answer is exerting power over your to-do list and focusing on what is actually important.  Most of what’s on your plate can wait – an hour, a day, a week, a month, or even a year.

The one thing that can’t wait another minute is adjusting what you say to yourself about time and how you prioritize what’s important. 

Try this:  There’s one thing on your plate that you feel pressure to get done.  Start it right now.  And as you work on it, repeat in your head your new mantra; I have plenty of time.

You’ll be amazed.  You don’t have to rush through everything; you don’t have to do it all at once.  You can pick the most important thing, and slow down.  Because now you have what no other entrepreneur has – time.

Remember -- you only get one life, Make the most of it. 
Stop defeating yourself, stop limiting yourself.
Create all the success you want and deserve in life.
Stretch yourself and create the life you want.  


Start living now.


I look forward to connecting with you soon.